Dear Ms. Demeanor,

I am 100% percent certain that my neighbor rents out her apartment for short stints when she is on vacation.  She practically told me herself and suggested I check out the website where I found an eerily familiar listing. 

I know this is totally illegal but I don't want her to be fined - I just want her to quit it before she accepts a bedbug-ridden backpacker or plain old psychopath in to our lovely Brooklyn Heights building.


Help, I don't want to live in a hostel!

Dear Hostel,

Does your neighbor know that she faces not only a fine but an eviction should the city be made aware of her activites?  You may want to print out this article and slip it under her door.

I would also advise talking to her--letting her know your thoughts and concerns, and making it very clear that if you see her ad on a website or strangers coming and going that you will be informing the board and/or management company first, the city (via 311) next.  We need to have a zero tolerance policy on a practice that makes our homes and buildings less safe and secure.

Shut it down!

Ms. Demeanor

Ms. Demeanor is channeled by a longtime Manhattan vertical dweller and real-estate voyeur who writes under the pen name Jamie Lauren Sutton. She is here to commiserate, calm and correct. Please email your quandaries to and put "Dear Ms. Demeanor" in the subject line.

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